Hello Garry,
The point of offering one?s food to hungry ghosts isn?t so much to do with the food itself, as with the mental actions involved. Compassion and generosity are Good Things, and if done rightly the intention to offer food will involve both. A hungry ghost is obsessed and closed down, not all that different from a living person who gets depressed. Sometimes a thoughtful act will reach a depressed person, and it doesn?t matter so much whether what?s offered to them is food, a trip to the cinema etc; the main thing is that someone is thinking of them, reaching out to them, so that the sense of isolation is dispelled.
That would be the quiet, timid sort who will sit there in a blue funk, year after year. Yes, it would be good if its name were to be called out (verbally, not just mentally) & it would be good - sort of - if it were urged, day after day, to come join the party. Given these two conditions, a blue-funk ghost, and daily urging, I suppose that most would respond eventually.
What you've got then is a pet. Or maybe it has you as a pet. Remember we're still talking about two real people, one living, one dead, both of whom have (or have had) a life & everything that goes with that, both of whom have free will, both of whom are still subject to all the rules of karma.
If such a relationship is formed in a society which has, one way or another, strict rules about this sort of thing, then you might be okay.
In the west, where this would be a novelty to both parties, all manner of things, many of them unfortunate, could then happen.
We see homeless people in the streets & our hearts go out to them & we wish we could take them into our homes & give them "a second chance". We are urged not to do so, as extreme privation has made these people needy & often manipulative. In aquatic lifesaving we are taught not to swim up to a distressed swimmer & offer him our hand, as he will gladly take it & pull us under along with him. Those who wish to help the needy do not blunder in untrained.
If ghosts are fed as a Vedic remedy, under Vedic rules, then no harm should come to the living party. Presumably such an action is started at a certain time, continued at stated intervals, and ended when earthly, not ghostly, conditions have been met.
Without such rules, feeding a ghost can quickly become a form of vampirism, which can become dangerous not only to the person feeding the ghost, but also to everyone in his circle. If we are going to take this up anyway, then it is important that corpses be cremated. Does this hungry ghost come from such a culture?
Not for nothing Catholics insist on Funeral Masses, which, even when poorly performed (as seems the norm anymore) avoid many of these problems & assist the departed in their journey. (I'm looking forward to mine.)
But here is how quick & easy the solution is, for both timid & aggressive ghosts alike:
You are aware of a certain vague unpleasantness, of a lack of comfort over in the corner or down the hall. You play 20 questions with your spouse. Answer from the top of your head, without thinking:
Is it animal, vegetable or mineral? Is it male or female? Is it young or old? Is it happy or sad?
For the timid sort, this is pretty much all you need to puzzle out. For the not-so-timid, you probably already know who they are.
Talking aloud, more or less in its direction, but not quite directly to it, you start to speculate. You would like to help, but you can't, as you're not on the same level. But suppose there was someone who could. Suppose this ghost had a friend. Everyone has friends. Suppose this person had been looking for this friend all their life, but never quite found them. Suppose that friend was here now. [You had previously imagined some "old man" or woman in the corner as your ghost. Now you imagine some other party standing next to him. This should be easy. Continuing.] That friend is here now. He has missed you. He loves you very much. He wants to help. How do I know this person really is your friend? Well, I don't, but you do. Look into his eyes and you will see if this is true or not.
You imagine, or perhaps I should say, observe, the two look at each other. This is the moment of truth. I have never yet seen a ghost fail it.
[Continuing] Your friend will help you. Good luck to you both!
Let the two fade away from your inner eye.
And that's it. And though you may think this was all imaginary, it is not uncommon to feel a wave of relief at this point. This worked with Winnie, with Jim & with Hazel, and with numerous others of the quiet sort. Ruth was slightly different. It works in full consciousness, it also works as part of a focused dream. With Winnie, I then observed a group of friends standing on a low ridge behind them. I directed the two of them to the group, and when Winnie saw who they were, a most amazing thing occurred.
There are rules. The "friend" is invoked several times. For motor-mouth Geminis like me, this is easy. The friend is never, ever named. You may think it is the mother or father, you may think it is an angel or Buddha or Jesus or the Virgin Mary, but you never say the name. If at all possible, you are never to think the name. All names carry emotional baggage, and at this point the ghost is incredibly fragile. Trigger some half-forgotten memory & he will flee & may well never get near you again. The ghost will know who the friend is, and that is all that matters.
From start to finish this takes less than five minutes. Why mess with feeding the things? So far as paying down old debts from the dim forgotten past, this will pay them down far faster than inviting the unseen to your table. There are plenty of physically hungry who need food. Sometimes I think we invent these dodges (feeding ghosts!) to make ourselves feel good as we ignore our earthly obligations. Escapism is as common in the East as it is in the West.
Generally one wouldn?t have a particular hungry ghost in mind with this practice; the idea is that you put the thought out there to all beings in a particular state, and some will resonate with it.
This works with wild birds. I wouldn't try it with humans unless I was prepared for the result. A precise analogy is to give a homeless man a sandwich & then find that he expects you to give him a sandwich every day, which you do, and then find that he brings his friends along as well. Very quickly your simple act of generosity has turned you into a soup kitchen. The world needs more soup kitchens & this is a worth-while thing to do with your life, but you should go into it with your eyes open.
For that matter, the same thing happens with wild birds. A couple of birds will turn into hundreds by the end of summer. All dependent on you, for better or worse.
There are plenty of other realms (there?s a total of 31 in Buddhist cosmology, which seems as good as any though I think any division is going to be arbitrary).
Agreed. But however we divide them, the process results in real things that we can deal with in a real fashion.
And it?s possible to direct positive thoughts to all of them. There are specific meditations (loving-kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy) for doing this.
Agreed. We can go to the hospital & sit by some forlorn bedside & bring cheer to the forgotten. This is good. But it is not a replacement for competent medical care. When we see an accident along the road, we do not stop our car & go to the injured & preach the Word of God to them, or offer them our moral support. We get them an ambulance & a doctor & only after they are finished & in stable condition do we then use them to support our own egos. Ghosts, by definition, are those who need help. Once they have gotten that help, then of course we may talk freely to them, swap old stories, cheer each other up, etc. Except that a happy ghost is no longer a ghost & rapidly moves far, far away, where the living rarely go. Where it's really hard to go. He has been set free, from his own chains. He then naturally rises to a new & more comfortable level. In the hospital analogy, the ill recovers & goes home. If we know where he lives, if we have the transportation, we can go visit. He will be delighted to see us, I can assure you. The previous situation is now reversed. We must now meet him on his terms, rather than he on ours.
It?s potentially dangerous territory though and I?m convinced (& am sure you?d agree) that it?s necessary to have the guidance of people who know what they are doing,
I didn't have it. I stumbled along. So far as dangerous, discarnates can easily put the living in dangerous, life threatening situations without the living having any idea what is going on or what they should do about it. ANY intervention by an outside party is welcome & can bring at least temporary relief, BUT (here's another rule) he must not come with preconceptions of any sort, he must not talk down to the distressed parties, he must not tell him it's all in his head, he must not belittle in any way. He must accept what he is told, he must then find some way to deal with it, on its own terms. As if he was an engineer with a structural problem that needed a solution. It seems to me that social workers would have the necessary training, if they don't let prejudicial preconceptions get in the way.
and to employ effective measures to protect oneself against harmful psychic influence before getting involved. Of course Dion Fortune?s ?Psychic Self-Defence? is a classic text for this kind of thing.
You are confusing things again. Discarnates, no matter how nasty or strung-out, are still humans & will respond to human prompts. Dion Fortune is talking of astral beasties generally & for this one must tread carefully, one must use protection, one must find his own incantations, one must use certain techniques, one must be able to maintain an absolute focus until the matter at hand has been resolved. I might take you on a ghost hunting trip & ask that you be quiet & observe. I would never let you get anywhere close to this sort of astral crap, and, for that matter, I avoid it myself. I only go there when I'm pushed, when I have no choice, and I never go there alone. Scares me to death.
As a (non-academic) account of the after-death state ? including some of the more gloomy realms, and how to get out of them - I?ve always liked ?Post-Mortem Journal? by Jane Sherwood.
Sounds like an interesting book. I wish there were more of them, I wish they were better known. Looking at the blurb on Amazon just now, I would presume the claim that T.E. Lawrence had anything to do with it is false, as such claims nearly always are. Aside from that, we would judge the book on its merits. There are many queer non-human creatures, sentient beings who cannot take human birth, but who have useful information which they wish to impart. One common method is to find a sensitive & then puff itself up & claim to be some famous human, so that the sensitive will think itself fortunate & transcribe what the non-human entity has to say. Analysis of these books is quite fascinating.
In the case of Mr. Lawrence, we would first see if he had any interest in such studies while he was alive. He was a dynamic & forceful man. Such men, when interest in the occult comes to them, rapidly make short work of the study, as they make short work of most everything. So it's certainly possible that a military commander could have a second life as a self-trained occultist. The years after Lawrence's escapades in Arabia saw the very climax of the Theosophical movement. It was a time when many were drawn. His surviving papers would certainly prove this, one way or another. Reading the Wiki entry just now, the possibility that Lawrence had such an interest, while he was alive, is remote. He would not, he could not, have learned about such matters after he died. There are rules. The famous posthumous opinions of John Lennon are another sad case.
I have just glimpsed Astrea's reply. It is quite good, and, from a female point of view, most welcome.
Dave