Pete,

It's very kind of you to take the time to analyze whether or not my ex will die or not.

Except of course I didn't do that

You are funny... but what you say is true, I know you didn't..

If he doesn't matter that much anymore then why do you need to know if he'll just DIE when he sees you? Hmmm?

It's just a figure of speech......come on.......

That's understandable. I make allowances

I know. That's why I've been taking so many liberties...

when you say I receive him into his detriment, does that mean he gets "detrimented" *because* of me?

It means basically that he will see that you no longer hold him in any esteem; that, in fact, you have nothing but contempt for him at one level

Wow! That's very cool......

I have a lot of respect for what you know, really...

I know that, Taurus, and thanks

I really appreciate your help in this, Pete. While I still think the general consensus is that the ex is "in there", but, I think, it is time.......

I concede...

Doesn't happen often, trust me!!!

With best regards,
Taurus7

This thread seems to have gone from a supposedly simple question of whether or not you will have fun with your friend to an excuse to deride your former partner in a tone that I?m not really sure is appropriate for this forum.

Hi Sue,
I respect your position as a moderator I really do, in fact I'm a moderator on another forum so I know how difficult it can be at times to judge what's acceptable and what isn't. It isn't always easy!
Having said that, and while I acknowledge that T may be coming over as somewhat derisory with respect to her ex, I'm sure she meant no offence but was utilising the playful tone I've seen so often displayed by those with Venus in Gemini. My first wife had this position and she was very similar.
Actually, if we can see past the way T put this point across - and I can -then I think this has been quite an instructive thread. There have been many views expressed and food for thought offered, and this can only be valuable because the question of what ought and ought not be included in a judgement is an important one.
I've responded to many of T's posts in the past on this forum and I think we've developed a good understanding of each other's manner. I believe she was actually in part playing devil's advocate and this promoted others to bring in their views too.
She admits she's a novice and she's keen to learn. It's to her credit that she apologised for causing any offence, and I'm sure she meant it.

I enjoy her posts, they often cheer me up when I'm having a bad day
I think the forum would be the poorer if she should change her style too much
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Pete

If he doesn't matter that much anymore then why do you need to know if he'll just DIE when he sees you? Hmmm?

It's just a figure of speech......come on.......

I know it is, but I'm sure you see the contradiction in what you said?

I really appreciate your help in this, Pete. While I still think the general consensus is that the ex is "in there", but, I think, it is time.......

I concede...

Doesn't happen often, trust me!!!

In that case it must be a big day for you. Shall I alert the media?

With best regards,

Best regards to you too, and like I suggested: just enjoy the festival with your friends
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Pete

Hi,

Let me apologise too, if my instructions to kill the ex were taken seriously or seen as offensive to anyone on the forum!

I've already been 'expelled' from one forum and don't want the same happening here. There's a lot more I could say, but perhaps I should shut up now!

Thanks moderators and contributors.