Ah, Sir Peter,
Thank you so much for your response.
Where have you been? Seems like the lovely Ms. Sabena is taking up ALLyour time and you don't come here anymore;;; so nice of you to re-appear at this forum.

In my view, combustion is a MAJOR point of debility, especially if it involves a primary significator.

Well actually, I have another horary in which I see combustion again (seeing a lot of combustion these days; that's either a reflection of the hot temperatures we are experiencing in the NY tri-state area or the universe is trying to tell me something.. )

I decided a new thread would be more appropriate for this one, so you'll find it under a related title.

I notice too that the Moon is void-of-course. As this is really a "third party" horary, and one in which you - presumably - have no involvement, then maybe this is saying that you will never become aware of the eventual flow of events?

I do think I will become aware of the eventual flow of events, but as of right now, it's true I don't know if they broke up or not. Are you saying that the universe is basically asking me to mind my own business?

Anyway. I do hope you will take a few minutes to take a look at my new thread.
- T -
p.s> Regards to the lovely Ms. Sabena

Hi Pete...

Thank you for the feedback on the chart itself. I deliberately gave it a time frame when I asked the question - so at least I can give a little feedback on what's happened

betwen significators. In this chart, Mercury (him) is in the term and face of Jupiter (you), showing friendly interest, but not much more.

There is considerably more then that - it may not end up being romantic interest though. However it's been a very strong emotional one as different from casual friends. HOWEVER it may not be 'more then friends' if you follow me.

fact, Mercury recieves Jupiter into its detriment, indicating that something about him or your relationship with him is foreign or alien to you

You could say that and actually it's a very succinct way of terming it It's been the most unusual relationship I've ever been in....and his thought process is definitely very alien to my experience - actually to be fair we both cause the other a great amount of hair pulling due to the differences.

He may well be unable to take action freely or openly due to Mercury's combustion with the Sun, which represents a powerful force that holds him back and forces him to stay hidden.

This does indeed make sense. No...nothing like him being married or anything. The only legal liklihood is his legal responsibilities to his ex. However there is a great deal of emotional scars and current chaos in his life - I think that's the best way of putting it. Whatever it is it causes him to throw serious mixed signals to say the least. He's clearly very attached but won't commit to anything.

Whatever the situation is, in order to meet up with Jupiter, Mercury must move even deeper into combustion, and while essentially strong, he might well find that to be very uncomfortable for him.

Very much so. Indeed for us to 'get back together' he would have to confront me so to speak...and this is an area he's VERY uncomfortable with.

To shed light on this thus far....the question was posed after an unexpected blowup that led to his admission that while he had very strong feelings for me he was not in a place for a relationship. Essentially he threw the proverbial 'just friends' card on the table. This was fine with me...our friendship is amazing and while I'm not adverse to a relationship I'm also not fishing for one. I now have boundaries and am good with it...and I told him so. One would think this would relieve any pressure, he'd be glad, what have you...instead he got angry, said he was NOT good with this and that's where it got left. It took a week before we talked again. Once he was convinced I wasn't upset things seems to have settled a tiny bit. I don't consider us 'back together' and don't know if things will settle back into our friendship, progress or if he'll disappear in the dead of the night. HOWEVER this conversation this morning was definitely something he was dreading having already decided it was going to go badly....perhaps this was the 'uncomfortable' part of moving deeper into combustion before our relationship can resume in any form.